Much of communication is listening. Unfortunately, when you are the man in the marriage relationship, listening is a tricky skill to try to learn. Allow me to illustrate.
When my wife asks me, “Paolo, do you want a glass of water?”, I have to think, “Is she asking what she’s asking?”
Why? Because often times, she asks me that question because she wants water for herself. So now, I’ve learned to answer her question with another question, “Oh, darling, would you like some water?”
I know what you are thinking, “Why don’t they just tell us straight?” It’s not hard to say, “Paolo, can you get me some water please?”
But I don’t know why. I guess God wants marriage to be such an adventure that’s why God designed men and women to communicate differently. We just need to understand HOW we were designed. THAT is a lifelong undertaking. That’s why it’s an ADVENTURE.
P.S. Just in case, you may ask David Bonifacio for insight. He might have some.