I read an interesting article from Psychology Today last Saturday.

It tells us that though our ‘web connections’ have grown broader but shallower. Stephen Marche and his research team tells us that we are more isolated that ever before, and also more accessible than ever imagined.

This means  that while we have hundreds of friends in Facebook and scores of followers on Twitter, the relationships are actually shallow.

We can know what Lady Gaga ate for breakfast and what city One Direction is in today but there’s very little relationship if any.

Stephen Marche, in his article in The Atlantic says,

Loneliness and being alone are not the same thing, but both are on the rise. We meet fewer people. We gather less. And when we gather, our bonds are less meaningful and less easy. The decrease in confidants—that is, in quality social connections—has been dramatic over the past 25 years. In one survey, the mean size of networks of personal confidants decreased from 2.94 people in 1985 to 2.08 in 2004. Similarly, in 1985, only 10 percent of Americans said they had no one with whom to discuss important matters, and 15 percent said they had only one such good friend. By 2004, 25 percent had nobody to talk to, and 20 percent had only one confidant.

Hebrews 10:25 says, Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another —and all the more as you see the Day approaching.

Let me encourage you to get into a small group, volunteer or continue to build meaningful relationships.


The word “follow” have been used in many different ways.  To some degree it has lost its meaning.

On Twitter, people follow Ashton, Britney, Katy, Taylor, Lady Gaga, Bieber, Barack, Selena…

Following these guys doesn’t necessarily convey a relationship with them – no commitment, no expectations, no demands nor requirements.

When Jesus gave a call, it was clear.

“Come follow me.” (Matthew 4:19)

He took it further by saying,

“If any of you wants to be my follower, you must turn from your selfish ways, take up your cross daily, and follow me.” (Luke 9:23, NLT)

1. Turn from your selfish ways.

There is a turning that is involved. It is virtually impossible for a ‘turning to’ without a ‘turning from’.

Who is at the throne of your life? Self or Jesus.

No one else can answer that but us.

2. Take up your cross daily.

Oswald Chambers says that it’s easier to be martyred than to die daily by picking up your cross.

To be martyred means to die for Christ and wake up the next moment in His presence.

To die daily is a more difficult task.  But that’s what we’re called to do.  Picking up our cross daily, not weekly or yearly, but daily is a consistent dying to self.

3. Follow me.

When we’ve done the first two, then following Him becomes a reality.

If Jesus had a twitter… will you follow?  How?