Blog 061115

Sarah, a 4-year old girl was given a clear directive by her mom not to get cookies from the cookie jar for it was almost time for supper.   But since Sarah loved cookies so much, she was tempted to sneak into the kitchen and try to get at least one piece.  But as she was sneaking one out from the cookie jar, her mother comes in the kitchen and asks, “Sarah, what are you doing?”  Quickly putting both hands behind her back to try to hide the cookie she said, “Mom, what do you mean?  There’s nothing in my hands.  I don’t have a cookie behind my back.”  Of course, her mom confronts her and tells her that she was caught in the act.  To this, Sarah replies, “But mom, it’s really not my fault.  Really!  I was just trying to smell the cookies but it got stuck between my teeth.”

How can kids come up with these kinds of stories?  Who taught them?  How did they get this “creative”?  Here are three truths about lying that would help us understand our kids better.


Do not be surprised when your young child comes to you one day with a story that is completely not true. Our eldest child was only 4 when he told his first lie. Of course we couldn’t believe that our cute, sweet and adorable son would be capable of doing such a thing!  But after talking to other parents with far more experience than us, we learned that our son was not an isolated case. Children as young as 3 or 4 years old are capable of lying.

Proverbs 22:15 says that folly is bound up in the heart of a child.

Basically, there are four reasons a child lies: To keep their parents happy, to stay out of trouble, to avoid embarrassment often related to low self-esteem, or because they want attention.  Children may fabricate a story about something good they did in school to please their parents. Or if they know they had done something wrong, they may give you another version of what really happened to avoid the punishment. They may also say some things about themselves that are not true so they can belong or be accepted by other kids. Or simply children may lie because their parents haven’t been spending time with them and this is the only way to get their parents to listen to them.


Children will lie whether we like it or not. That’s how deceitful our hearts can become as Jeremiah 17:9 declares.

How we handle their lying will determine how honest and truthful they will grow up in the future. In our house, we have established clear boundaries we expect from our children to follow strictly.  One of them is, “You have to be truthful at all times.”  While our society and culture might justify some amount of lying, we cannot tolerate it in our home. We want our children to learn early in their lives that lying has serious consequences.

The foundation for every relationship is trust. Lying breaks that trust. Lying damages our relationships. We want our children to grow up enjoying healthy relationships with others that is why it is one of our priorities to teach them the value of truthfulness and honesty. People who lie think that lying will make things better for them. But actually lying can lead to bigger, and more serious problems if not dealt with properly.


If your child has developed the habit of lying, the good news is it can be unlearned. Our kids can be taught how to be truthful.  If we start early and constantly emphasize honesty and truthfulness in our homes, our kids will eventually learn that lying doesn’t have to be the only option.

There are two ways we can train our kids to be truthful. First is to reward honesty.  We have to make our children realize that it is always better to tell the truth. Whenever they honestly admit some things to us, we need to appreciate them for it. Verbally affirm them for telling the truth (“I’m so proud of you for telling the truth!”).  And at times, even reward them with something tangible like additional allowance or a small toy. This constant reinforcement will encourage them to always be truthful.

Some people would say they don’t like giving rewards. But remember, Hebrews 11:6 says that God rewards His children. It’s perfectly ok to reward as long as it becomes the result of good work rather than a motivation for it.

The second way to train our kids to be truthful is for us parents to exemplify truthfulness. Set a good example for your children. Be truthful and honest in your own everyday behavior. Asking your children to lie for you (“Tell him I’m not home”) is a a way to show them it’s ok to lie. Let your children see you go out of your way to be honest.

If a clerk gives you too much change, point it out and return it. Admit your own mistakes and let your children see how you rectify them. Parental example is very powerful.  If we expect our children to be honest, we must show them how.

Remember, our children are learning from us all the time.

What we do today will make a great impact tomorrow.






This week has been an amazing week of prayer, fasting and seeking God.

I’d like to share with you thoughts I got either from the Word, speakers during the prayer meeting or personal reflection.

Here they are…

The Holy Spirit enables us to speak the Word with great boldness. – CJ Nunag

You are enabled by the Word of God and empowered by the Spirit of God. – CJ Nunag

Speak the Word not out of fear but out of faith. – CJ Nunag

To love another is to seek their highest good. – Peter Tan-Chi

If we want to pray for the body of Christ, lets pray that we will all be Christ-like. – Peter Tan-Chi

If we align our prayers with God’s kingdom purposes, then we have the assurance that our prayers will be answered. – Manny Carlos

Prayer enables us to walk into doors of opportunity. – Manny Carlos

Prayer makes us sensitive to the leading of God. – Manny Carlos

On reaching next gen: It’s not a quick fix but it’s thinking long term. – Joseph Bonifacio

On reaching next generation: It’s not acting like a kid but building relationships. – Joseph Bonifacio

God is a Multi generational God. – Joseph Bonifacio

“Sometimes, it’s not adversity but prosperity that makes us forget God.” – Nixon Ng

Refuse to lose. Jesus has won the victory!

It is the wisest thing to trust the plan of the One who knows your past, your present and your future. – Juray Mora

God has a plan for our breakthroughs. The question is if we are willing to work with His plans. – Juray Mora

God’s breakthroughs in our lives do not come by chance. They are planned by God. – Juray mora

The goodness is not dependent on our timing. – Juray Mora

You cannot pay for the blessings of God because none of it we actually deserve.- Juray Mora

Your trust will only be as strong as your knowledge of His goodness. – Juray Mora

God’s plan, God’s will, God’s Word always works. It never fails. – Juray Mora

Your breakthrough depends on the Word of God and the Will of God. – Paul Chase

God does not ask you to do the impossible. All He asks is for you to BELIEVE. – Paul Chase

Jesus will heal you not because you gave your life to Christ. He will heal because He gave His life for you. – Paul Chase

Don’t allow the past failures to steal your future expectations. – Paul Chase

If you hesitate to ask the unbelievable, you’ll hesitate to believe the miraculous. – Paul Chase

“Don’t pray prayers you can answer “- Paul Chase



There are often 2 sides to a story.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gotten in trouble for making judgments after hearing one side and then finding out after what the other side looks like.

Unfortunately, we don’t have both perpectives when we hear a story, accusation or issue right away.
Reserving judgments will probably be the best course of action until both sides are heard.

As Aesop would say, “

Every truth has two sides; it is as well to look at both, before we commit ourselves to either.”

I think there’s wisdom in that.

Proverbs 18:17 (WEB) says, He who pleads his cause first seems right; until another comes and questions him.”



Going through the series “BLUEPRINT” allowed us to look at what God has to say about Biblical Manhood.

Genesis 1:27 says,

“So God created man in his own image,
in the image of God he created him;
male and female he created them.”

This tells me three things.

God created us.
God created us in His image.
God created us in His image – male and female.

What then are the implications?

Because God created us, I’m am not an accident.  Because of this, I know that I have been designed for a purpose.

The Bible says that God’s thoughts for us outnumber the sand in the seashore and that every day has been written in His book.

Thus, I can be assured that I am special.

Guys, no need to get significance from achievements, your work, the car you drive, the lady you are dating as of this moment.

Ladies, you know that because you were designed for a purpose, you don’t have to seek for your acceptance nor security from one guy.

What Jerry Mcguire (Tom Cruise) told Dorothy Dorothy Boyd (Renée Zellweger) has been the biggest lie of this generation.

“You complete me.”

One big fat lie…

One person cannot complete you.  Two incomplete people can never complete one another.

Only a complete person/Being can only complete an incomplete person.

God says, “I am that I am.”

What that means is that ‘whoever you need me to be, I am that for you – Provider, Deliverer, Healer, Rescuer, Father, your All in All.’