A few years ago, I spoke to a couple who hit a bump in their relationship. They’ve been together since college and have been dating for several years. They’ve been both losing interest in each other and no longer know where to take it.
After hearing them out, we’ve realized that they’ve hit a lid in their relationship. The time they’ve spent, the experiences they’ve shared, the ‘kilig’ they’ve felt has hit a lid.
They needed to make a decision – either bring it to the next level (marriage) or make a decision if this is really what they want.
Someone said indecision becomes a decision with time.
I don’t know exactly how long is long but being in a relationship too long may not exactly be the healthiest. Intimacy wise, you cannot bring it to where you’d like to since you’re not yet married. And the temptation becomes even more intense.
Breaking up is difficult because of the ‘sayang’ factor. You’ve been with together for years and then that’s it?
But staying in a relationship just because you’ve been together for a long time is not the best reason to stay.
WARNING: Unsolicited advice…. (Don’t continue to read if you might not like the next statement.)
Guys, if you’re in a long term relationship and the relationship is getting stale, I suggest you take it to the next level – either get married or break it up. Why? Because the lady you are in a relationship with may be stuck and for all you know God has someone else for her but you’ve held her captive in the relationship you’re in.
But if it’s a go, then get married. Trust God for provision. Believe God for the best. He will never leave nor forsake.
Ladies, don’t let anyone take you captive in a relationship. You do know that you can make the decision to move on. You’re not married yet. And if he is not ready to back up his claim with a ring, then he has no business asking you to give your all to him.
By the way, you may ask what happened to the couple I spoke to years ago? They did get married, eventually. Now they’re living life to the fullest, enjoying all that God had promised in a marriage submitted to His will.
Many a man claims to have unfailing love, but a faithful man who can find? (Proverbs 20:6)