One of our goals as parents is that the older our kids get, the less control we exercise over them. Time will come that we won’t be there with them 24/7. We won’t and we can’t.
Therefore, as early as now, one of the things I need to teach my kids is to teach them self-discipline.
Self discipline is saying no to foolish behavior so that he can say yes to the plans and purposes God has for his life.
Our goal as parents is that our kids will eventually become their own disciplinarian.
Here’s how Steve Farrar puts it on raising self-disciplined kids, particularly boys:
- A self-disciplined son learns to control his emotions and drives. In other words, he can put a cap on his anger and exercise control in his sex life.
- A self-disciplined son respects authority, even when he doesn’t agree with it.
- A self-disciplined son grasps the value of future reward over immediate gratification.
- A self-disciplined son has learned to see outside his own little world of his own needs. In fact, he sees it as his honor and duty to sacrifice to meet the needs of those he loves.
- A self-disciplined son is a self-starter. He doesn’t need his mom to get him up every morning so that he won’t be late for his senior English class.
Discipline your children while there is hope. Otherwise you will ruin their lives. (Prov. 19:18, NLT)