In a comment culture we have today, it is very easy to drop words that can tear people down. Social media platforms’ comment sections have empowered each of us to say something after every post, article or photo. It can be a good thing or a bad thing.

In Ephesians 4:29, we are commanded – “Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.”

In our desire to make people laugh or be funny, we occasionally end up crossing the boundary lines of respect and courtesy.

Here are a few questions we can ask ourselves before saying something or commenting online:

1. Will it hurt others?
2. Will it encourage those who will hear?
3. Will it build my character?
4. Will it be helpful to the person I’m talking to?
5. Will it glorify God?

As we start this year (and decade), may God give us to grace to be mindful of what we say… “to not let any unwholesome talk come out of our mouths but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” (NIV)

Happy New Year!


Something very unfortunate happened this morning.  After an awesome Victory group meeting with several men from church, I got home only to find out that one of my kids accidentally spilled water on the laptop.

I went berserk and ballistic to say the least.  Afterwhich, I grabbed the laptop to bring it to one of the PowerMac service centers to get it fixed.

After coming home, I called my son.  He immediately said, “I am so so so sorry dad.  Please forgive me.”

To this I replied, “I am so sorry I got upset.  Do you know that you are more important than the laptop?”

Upon hearing this, to my horror, he shook head.  With tears welling up in his eyes, he emphasized his response to my question by another shaking of the head.

When I started this post saying something unfortunate happened, I wasn’t talking about the laptop.  I was talking about a realization.  I just communicated with my 7 year old that that piece of machine was more valuable than he was.

I had to immediately repent to God and ask my son for forgiveness.  I hugged him and with ‘sweaty eyes’ as I looked at his dispirited face.

“Ryan, I am so sorry for making you feel that way.  I was wrong. You are more important to me than anything in this world.  Can you please forgive me?”

“I forgive you dad.  I am sorry more.”

Hugs followed.  Glad he was very forgiving.

I can be such a jerk of a dad sometimes.

Heavenly Father, please pour out your grace to help me be the dad You want me to be for my kids.

Proverbs 10:19 When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.

Proverbs 29:20 Do you see a man who speaks in haste? There is more hope for a fool than for him.