OVER ROMANTICIZING LOVE

And it’s magic when two people fall in love…

When we listen to songs on the radio, watch movies in the theaters
or read romance novels, it is possible that the way we view love and relationships have been swayed by them?

Until reality hits…

It is possible that we’ve believed the wrong notion in the first place?

When we look at Genesis 24, we see a love story orchestrated by God Himself.
Isaac and Rebekah met, got married and fell in love.

Genesis 24:63. He went out to the field one evening to meditate, and as he looked up, he saw camels approaching. 

At this moment, this would be a cool scene from a movie. She looked up. And as she did, look at what the next scene uncovers. You could almost hear the background music slowly fading in.

Genesis 24:64-65. Rebekah also looked up and saw Isaac. She got down from her camel…

Now notice the next verse.

Genesis 24:67. Isaac brought her into the tent of his mother Sarah, and he married Rebekah. So she became his wife, and he loved her.

She became his wife. And THEN he loved her. Notice the sequence of events.

Often times we rely on feelings first then that’s what validates our desire for marriage.
I want you to note that as I say this, I am not negating emotions but if it’s the only basis for the relationship, then it is almost always doomed for failure.

When emotions become the primary basis
for our decision to get married,

then emotions will also become the primary basis
for our decision to separate.

You hear people say, “I just don’t love her the way I used to.”
Or you’d hear him say, “I no longer feel the magic when we first dated. I don’t think we can stay together anymore.”

Emotions may be the trigger but it cannot be the sustainer.
How come? Because emotions can change. But God’s Word won’t.

We have relied on affection, attraction and affinity.
These three change through the years, don’t they?

There are moments when you don’t really feel being affectionate. Then you have an argument. He didn’t follow through on his promise. She said something hurtful.

Through the years, attraction may diminish. Physical attraction, I mean. She may not look the way she did 15 years ago. He may not be as buffed as he was 20 years ago. Physical attraction may fade.

Neither can affinity sustain. Likes and dislikes change through the years. You both may like Zumba now but later she might start liking Crossfit, HIIT or some other fitness regimen. Affinities may change.

It is not the love that sustains the covenant
but it is the covenant that sustains the love.

Rebekah became his wife and then he loved her.

Just lodging this thought.

ARE TESTS NECESSARY?


There are moments when God tests us with the very provision He’s given.

Take Abraham for example in Genesis 22.  God told Abraham to take his son, his only son, to Mt. Moriah and sacrifice him up there.

Tests are necessary.  We don’t like it.  Some actually hate it.  But we need it.  It shows what’s really inside.

You want doctors tested and take their board exams.  You want cars tested for safety.  You want computers tested so they work well.

Tests are there to bring to surface what’s really inside.  For a medical student, the test shows what’s inside their brain.

Tests are not punishments but preparations.

They prepare us for future promotion. Grade 2 students take their final exams to get promoted to Grade 3.

For many of us, God tests to bring promotion – because He DOES have something HUGE in store for the future.

God tested Abraham with the very provision given.  The very thing that was promised was now the very thing being taken away? It didn’t make sense.  However, at the end, it all did.

When God tests us with the very provision He’s given, He wants to see if…

We’re so focused on the provision that we miss the Provider.
Or we seek His hand rather than His face.
or we pursue the blessing rather than the Blesser.

Tests bring up what’s really in there.

After everything, God’s verdict “NOW I KNOW…  that you fear God…”

“NOW I KNOW…”

When God looks inside our hearts, what will He find out?