COMPARISON TRAP

I was eating breakfast with my kids one morning. We have devotions over the breakfast table everyday before I drive them to school. We were talking about being careful not to compare ourselves with others.

The problem with comparing is that one will always come up better. This ends up with either pride or a poverty mentality. Pride causes us to compare ourselves with others while poverty causes us to compare others with ourselves.

The solution? A heart of gratitude.

Reading Robert Morris’ The Blessed Life made me realize a few things…

When you think about your situation in life…
Pride says, “I deserve more!”
Poverty says, “I should feel guilty.”
Gratitude says, “Thank you!” (Gratitude is an attitude of thankfulness that always acknowledges God’s provision.”

When someone says, “Wow, you have a nice cellphone!”
Pride says, “I have 2 other nice ones at home.”
Poverty says, “I got it at 50% off.”
Gratitude says, “Thank you!”

When someone says, “That’s a nice car!”
Pride says, “It’s just my everyday car.”
Poverty says, “It’s a company car.”
Gratitude says, “Thank you.”

When someone says, “That a nice shirt.”
Pride says, “It came from Europe.
“Poverty says, “It was on sale.”
Gratitude says, “Thank you.”

Pride wants people to think that we paid more.
Poverty wants people to think we paid less. (Yikes, I fall into this trap all too often.)

Gratitude doesn’t care what people think; it only cares what God thinks.

“Godliness with contentment is great gain.” 1 Timothy 6:6




8 responses to “COMPARISON TRAP”

  1. the poverty mentality really is hard to overcome…it being so inherent in our culture, a “pinoy mentality”. we are such a humble sort of people, altho it’s true that the line is pretty blurry between true humility or pa-humble or poverty mentality =p

    this year i would like to work on having a heart of gratitude more also 🙂

  2. This is great Pastor repost KO ha!!!

  3. Thanks for another great read!:)

  4. Agree with Diane. There is a cultural nuance that westerners might not totally get. We are a race that doesn’t really accept compliments with a thank you. Our culture sometimes view it as arrogance.

    Either that or I’m just justifying because all my usual responses are “poverty” answers…hahahaha

  5. Pastor how about yun: “blessing ni God”….. when someone gives positive comment. Is that pride, guilt or gratitude? Lame? But minsan kasi we hide behind those words to camouflage our “guilt” for having more or better things than others. Parang pa humble effect ba. Sometimes naman syempre we really want to acknowledge Him.

  6. @arlyn. i think more than what is said, it’s also the spirit behind what is being said. so i really don’t have a problem saying, “thank God” or “God is good” when someone gives a compliment when it’s appropriate. You’re right about ‘pa humble effect.’ Acknowledging Him is a good way to show gratitude since James says that “every good and perfect gift comes from God.”

  7. I always fall for this trap too Pastor Pao! Thank you for posting this, it’s an eye opener and is spoke to my heart in my current situation. It truly is better to have a heart of gratitude! God bless!

  8. OMG! This post hit home. All along pala I had the “poverty mentality”. I thought I was being humble. Tsk… scratching my head

    Thanks for enlightening me, Pastor Paolo!

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