I attended a Standard Operating Procedures training this afternoon at Victory Fort.   Because of the growth God’s been giving, coupled with it are challenges hinged to the growth.

Ms. Summer Parcon, a child psychologist shared about reasons why kids steal.

I just thought I’d share this with those who might be interested – parents, teachers, educators, kids church volunteers…

1. Poor impulse control

There may be many reasons for this.  One of which was permissive parenting.  When kids are given everything they want when they want, they may get frustrated when they don’t get what they want and resort to stealing.

2. Observational learning from adults.

If a child sees that daddy brings home office supplies, then they will think it’s also ok to do the same.

As Pastor Ferdie says it, “Monkey see, monkey do.”

3. Need for attention.

We cannot overemphasize the importance of family.  Surveys have shown us time and time again that when a child doesn’t get this at home, they will try to find it outside the home, even if that may cause them to do something they know is wrong.

4. Emotional lack

Lack of family closeness and support can be some of the reasons.  Kids who feel this may feel empty inside and may take things to fill that void.  There may be a lack of opportunity to express themselves so they displace it by taking other people’s things.

5. Peer pressure

One of our greatest needs as humans is the need to belong and to feel accepted.

Some want to appear tough, bold and important.  So when they get dared to get something that’s not theirs, they try to prove themselves to fit in.

6. Thrill and excitement

Stealing can lead to a sense of accomplishment.  It brings a certain rush.

7. Envy

Because of the influx of nice gadgets and stuff, kids might feel a pressure to have that item.

Hope this helps.


Me and My Dad camp was a blast.  It was one of the best Me and My Dad camps, if not the best that I’ve ever attended.  Kudos to Pastor Mark Tusoy and Glenn Quizon.

Pastor Joey and David Bonifacio did a Father and Son talk tandem.  It was nothing short of phenomenal.  You know when a person is teaching (from notes) and when he is simply speaking… speaking from experience and from the heart.

Quick run down on what I learned from David, a sharp, quick witted 26 year old single guy.

1. A father apologizing to his child is perfectly alright.  It doesn’t diminish respect.  In fact, it does exactly the opposite.

2. “The greatest inheritance I got was that I was ‘fathered.'”

3. A father is a definer.  If a dad doesn’t define his children, the world will.

4. Discipline molds and sets boundaries.  A dad has to define the boundaries.  In return, a child learns to respect it growing up.

5. On discipline and the rod, pain communicates the consequence.  Comfort communicates love.

6. What is not seen in the flesh is redeemed in the spirit.

7. A child becomes weak when there is too much comfort and is not allowed to experience hardship.

8. The best form of security a child can receive is to see his father being fully devoted to his mother.  “Faithfulness is not not cheating.  It is complete devotion.”

9. The best thing my father taught me is that no matter what, RUN TO GOD.  When things are going great, RUN TO GOD.  When things mess up, RUN TO GOD.  When it’s happy times, RUN TO GOD.  When it’s disappointment times, RUN TO GOD…. RUN TO GOD!


I’m no professional video editor, but I love putting videos together for my family whenever we go out for an overnighter or vacation.

I envision Jenn and I watching all these videos on our rocking chairs decades from now and remembering all the fun memories we were able to build with our kids.

Memories are powerful.  You can either have good ones or not so good ones growing up.  The worst?  Not having any to remember.

“Memory is a child walking along a seashore.  You never can tell what small pebble it will pick up and store away among its treasured things.”  ~Pierce Harris, Atlanta Journal


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Can’t miss this. March 27, 2010.



For our date night, Jenn and I watched “From Paris With Love”.  It was not your typical chick flick love story to say the least.  I don’t think she enjoyed the movie.  (But I did… haha)

One of the main characters turned out to be a suicide bomber (sorry to ruin the plot for those of you planning to see it).  She said she has found her purpose in life.

While not most of us will not agree with her found purpose in life, I dare say, at least she found one.

Too many simply exist.  They walk through life without purpose.  They live like everything’s just about them.  Wake up… Go to work/or school… come home… surf on the Net… have some bit of fun… sleep and the same rut happens again the next day.

Reading from the book of Judges, 2 names popped out – Tola and Jair.  The Bible says that they were born, they lived, they led and they died.  That’s it.  While I’m sure they did more than just live, lead and die, the Bible didn’t think it was enough to make it into the book of Judges.

Got me thinking.  Got me praying.

“Lord, I don’t want to just live, lead and then die.  I want to make a difference.  I want to make a dent in this nation’s history – not by my strength or abilities (knowing that I really don’t have lots) but by Your grace and power!”


* Friday and Saturday was awesome!  Got to speak at the Kids Ministry Summit in Caliraya where we had 400 delegates from all over the nation (34 churches all in all).  Mark Tusoy and the team did a phenomenal job.  The theme was “Making It Stick”… making the vision stick, the volunteers stick and the lessons stick in the minds of the next generation.  Kudos to the team.

* After the Summit, my family and I rushed to Ian and Claire Sia’s son’s dedication.  Ethan turned 1 year old and was dedicated to the Lord.  Children’s parties are fun.  Love the food at kids parties.

* I was so tired Saturday night … I crashed early.

* Sunday morning, I exercised… I needed it.  Got blood flowing.  Finishing touches on my message for the afternoon services.  Last weekend was the start of our new series “God & Gov.”

* Monday was super fun. Went to Lakeshore to try to fish.  Operative word was “try”.  But when we changed the bait from feeds to old school worms, then we caught some finally.  Flew kites.  Rode pedal boats.  Went up the lighthouse.  Looong yet absolutely fun day.  I often thank God for Monday family days.


Please allow me to be a proud daddy for a moment and share this homerun video by my 6 year old, Ryan.  This was last Saturday, February 6, 2010.  So proud of Ryan!


This weekend after the prayer and fasting went by like a whirlwind…


– After office, I had a wedding to officiate – what an awesome wedding!  A young single mom who found her knight in shining armor.  Almost brought me to tears seeing her march down the aisle and finally receiving the promise of God for her life.  God never ceases to amaze me in how much He takes care of His kids.

– Rushed to a 70th birthday party of one of the guys from church.  In his speech, he mentions that after a quintuple bypass and kidney transplant, it is all because of JESUS that he is where he is today.  I love hearing people give honor to where honor is due.  Amazing man!

– Ran to a family reunion which was happening at our house.  Since my sister, Princess, is here in town, several reunions are taking place because she hasn’t been back in about 3 years.  Love it that my sister is in town.  I really miss her.


– Saturday was crazier.  In the morning, I had a baseball game to help coach.  My son, Ryan’s team played.  We weren’t supposed to keep score because at his age bracket, each game should end as a tie every time.  But we all know that a game is not a game if we don’t know who won.  So I made a mental note.  We won 17-9.  Haha!

– Rushed to a baby dedication I had to officiate.  It was a powerful time.  Not too many who attended come to church but God’s presence showed up and it was a touching ceremony.  Any event becomes powerful when God shows up. Galing.

– Ran to Antipolo for a very close friend’s 40th birthday party.  Glenn,  a very good friend, put together a surprise party for his wife.  It was well planned and excellently executed.  Happy birthday, Jeje.


– Sundays are always pretty packed for me but this Sunday was extra packed.  Brought the family in the morning to attend church.  Jenn was emceeing the morning services.  Kids attended also.  They like attending the morning services.  I think because I’m not the one preaching (since I preach at 5 and 7 pm). haha.

– Ran to a wedding to attend around 1:30.

– Rushed back to Victory Fort at 5 pm to preach at the 5 and 7 pm.

– Ran back to the wedding reception at Wack Wack club house (yes it was a loooooong reception).  I got to catch the tail end of the party.

Huff… puff… whew!


Coming home from church last night, Ryan and Janina rode with me while Nathan and Joaquin rode with their mom since they used another car coming from a birthday party.

A conversation between Janina, my 10 year old and Ryan, my 6 year old that made me bust out laughing went like this…

RYAN: I don’t like Robert (not his real name).  He’s weird.

ME: Ryan, be nice.  Don’t say that.

JANINA: Ryan, you can say it this way – “He’s different and unique.  I don’t get along with him because I dislike the way he acts.”

RYAN: Huh?  But “I don’t like Robert” is shorter!

Oo nga naman.


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Because of the many parties, sometimes the last people we get to spend time with is our kids.  I know I’ve fallen into that trap.  But we have to be deliberate for this thing not to happen.

My wife is so good with this.  She prints out a December calendar and gets us all in a meeting to plan the whole month.  Remember if you don’t fill your calendar, someone else will.

For this month’s plans…

  • Our own family Christmas dinner – this is a time when we usually spend Christmas dinner just for us.  We go to a restaurant we’ve gone back every December 23 for the past several years – Outback in C5.  We have our little celebration and do our gift giving there.  It’s always a highlight in our Christmas celebration.
  • Watching the light show at Ayala
  • Ornament making
  • Visiting Real Life’s Feeding program

to be continued…