And it’s magic when two people fall in love…
When we listen to songs on the radio, watch movies in the theaters
or read romance novels, it is possible that the way we view love and relationships have been swayed by them?
Until reality hits…
It is possible that we’ve believed the wrong notion in the first place?
When we look at Genesis 24, we see a love story orchestrated by God Himself.
Isaac and Rebekah met, got married and fell in love.
Genesis 24:63. He went out to the field one evening to meditate, and as he looked up, he saw camels approaching.
At this moment, this would be a cool scene from a movie. She looked up. And as she did, look at what the next scene uncovers. You could almost hear the background music slowly fading in.
Genesis 24:64-65. Rebekah also looked up and saw Isaac. She got down from her camel…
Now notice the next verse.
Genesis 24:67. Isaac brought her into the tent of his mother Sarah, and he married Rebekah. So she became his wife, and he loved her.
She became his wife. And THEN he loved her. Notice the sequence of events.
Often times we rely on feelings first then that’s what validates our desire for marriage.
I want you to note that as I say this, I am not negating emotions but if it’s the only basis for the relationship, then it is almost always doomed for failure.
When emotions become the primary basis
for our decision to get married,
then emotions will also become the primary basis
for our decision to separate.
You hear people say, “I just don’t love her the way I used to.”
Or you’d hear him say, “I no longer feel the magic when we first dated. I don’t think we can stay together anymore.”
Emotions may be the trigger but it cannot be the sustainer.
How come? Because emotions can change. But God’s Word won’t.
We have relied on affection, attraction and affinity.
These three change through the years, don’t they?
There are moments when you don’t really feel being affectionate. Then you have an argument. He didn’t follow through on his promise. She said something hurtful.
Through the years, attraction may diminish. Physical attraction, I mean. She may not look the way she did 15 years ago. He may not be as buffed as he was 20 years ago. Physical attraction may fade.
Neither can affinity sustain. Likes and dislikes change through the years. You both may like Zumba now but later she might start liking Crossfit, HIIT or some other fitness regimen. Affinities may change.
It is not the love that sustains the covenant
but it is the covenant that sustains the love.
Rebekah became his wife and then he loved her.
Just lodging this thought.