Valentine’s Day is celebrated every year. When you go to the mall, watch television or check out social media, you know that the love month is upon us.

But with barrage of images, love songs and videos, one can either fall into an enjoyment of the season of hearts or despise it. It can bring pressure for both the singles and married alike.

According to CNN
224 million roses are grown in time for Valentines Day
$18.6B is going to be the total spending
Another source tells us that 15% of women send themselves flowers on that day.

Recently, people have started celebrating S.A.D. (Singles Awareness Day) which is a complement to Valentine’s Day for people who are not in a romantic relationship.

When did it all start anyway?
Here’s a good article of when Valentine’s Day started.

But for the singles, here are a few things that might help…

– Go out for dinner with friends and do something fun.
– Get together with some people and host a Valentine dinner for someone who recently lost a loved one.
– Do something for people who would appreciate it at this time like those who are sick, the elderly, children who don’t have parents, etc.

But whatever you do, remember that it’s not one person that can complete you. The famous line “you complete me” is just not true. There’s only One that can complete us – Jesus.

Remember, no two broken people can complete each other. If you’re not complete before you get married, you can’t expect to become complete because of the relationship you are currently in. Two needy people will only end up devouring each other if they’re in it to simply get their needs met.

Only Christ can truly satisfy.

Blaise Pascal said that there is a God-shaped void inside of us that only God can fill. People try to fill it with career, achievements and relationships. But in the end, they fall short.

The Bible is filled with promises of satisfaction for the discontent.

    • In your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore. (Psalm 16:11)
    • The afflicted shall eat and be satisfied; those who seek him shall praise the Lord! May your hearts live forever! (Psalm 22:26)
    • Jesus said to them, “I am the bread of life; whoever comes to me shall not hunger, and whoever believes in me shall never thirst.” (John 6:35)
    • For he satisfies the longing soul, and the hungry soul he fills with good things. (Psalm 107:9)

Don’t let circumstances or holidays dictate how you feel. Let God’s Word fill your heart and determine how amazing your Valentine’s Day will be. Have a great one.

My son and I were driving through Pasig one Valentine’s Day. He was about 9 years old at that time. As we passed by Canley Road where there were lots of motels advertising “QUICKIES”, he asked me why the rooms were so cheap and why they were rented out only for a couple of hours.

Good thing I was already able to explain to him about the “birds and the bees”.

I told him that it’s unfortunate that people no longer wait for the officiating minister to say, “Now, you may kiss the bride.”
They end up saying, “I did” rather than “I do.”

Genesis 1:26 says that we were created in His image and in His likeness. What does this mean? This means that you and I have value. We are valuable not because of the clothes we wear, the car that we drive, the title on our business card nor the village we live in.

We are valuable because we were made in His image. Our value is intrinsic.

Which begs the question, “What would it take for your partner to get you in bed?” What would your boyfriend or girlfriend need to offer you to get you to sleep with him/her?

Let me propose to you that it should nothing be less than 2 words. Three won’t do.

“I love you” shouldn’t be enough.

You are worth waiting for.

Not 3 words but 2. And those 2 words? “I do.”

Until he can back it up with a ring, don’t give in.
Until she says “I do”, you can’t give in.

Jackson Pollack, an abstract expressionist painted a painting. It looked like my 5 year old can do the very thing he created. However, a man named David Martinez bought the painting on November 1, 2006 for a whopping $151.2 million.

You see value is determined by how much one is willing to pay for.

And the value you place on yourself will determine what and who you will give yourself to.

Now if you don’t think you’re worth that, you’ll give yourself for a whole lot less, then you’ll wonder why you feel cheap and he doesn’t treat you with the value you deserve. You gave him what he wanted at a discount.

Remember, you are no longer your own, but you were bought with a price.

You are so valuable that Someone sacrificed and died on your behalf.
Now THAT is real love.

Happy Valentine’s Day.



Because it’s Valentine season, the pressure is on.

You don’t have to be a love guru to notice. Just check the twitter feeds of people and you’ll understand what I mean.

If you’re not on twitter, just go to family reunions this month and listen to what the titos and titas ask. Besides “how are you” I’m sure you’ll get “o, hijo/hija, may boyfriend/girlfriend ka na ba?” (do you already have a boyfriend/girlfriend?)

I’m sure they’re well meaning and desire to start conversations with their nephews and nieces. But it truly becomes a pressure.


God works with seasons and timing.

People end up frustrated or forced if they don’t understand the seasons God’s allowed them to enjoy at the moment.

If you’re season is to focus on what God has put on your plate at the moment (school, career, spending time with family, starting a business), then have a blast! Be secure in the season God’s put you in and you’ll notice a change in perspective.

Being both single and married are gifts from God. And each gift comes with its own set of wonderful blessings.

In the meantime, continue to build godly friendships.

As what my friend Christian Flores says,
“Christ-centered friendship is the best foundation of a meaningful relationship.”


The right thing at the wrong time becomes the wrong thing.

Because of the pressure, emotions can become overwhelming. When this happens, we tend to make decisions on a whim without thinking of the consequences.

“Mr. Right” becomes a mere “Mr. Right Now.”

“Ms. Right” is replaced by “Ms. Right Now.”

Because you don’t have a significant other at the moment doesn’t make you incomplete.

If you have given your life to Christ and He is Master and Savior, then know that He alone is truly able to bring fulfillment and significance.

Remember, the 3 most important decisions you’ll make in your life:

  •  Who you will serve? (Master)
  •  How you will serve? (mission)
  •  With whom will you serve? (mate)

If you are looking for fulfillment and security in a romantic relationship, I can tell you now that you might end up disappointed.

Only One can fill all your needs – physical, spiritual and emotional… JESUS!