What do you do when you’ve offended somebody?

The Bible tells us a story of what Abigail did on behalf of her family.

They offended King David.

This was their response.

 

1. HUMBLE YOURSELF.

“When Abigail saw David, she quickly got off her donkey.  She bowed down before David with her face to the ground.” (1 Samuel 25:23)

 

Humility is an internal decision that leads to outward action.

After Abigail humbled herself before David on behalf of her whole family, she takes responsibility.

In a society that likes to shift the blame (which we see everyday from our homes to the house of Representatives), taking responsibility for what we have done will do us well.

 


2. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY.

 

Abigail fell at David’s feet.  She said:

“My lord, let the blame be on me alone. Please let your servant speak to you; hear what your servant has to say.” (1 Samuel 25:24.)

Humility is an internal decision that leads to outward action.

After Abigail humbled herself before David on behalf of her whole family, she takes responsibility.

In a society that likes to shift the blame (which we see everyday from our homes to the house of Representatives), taking responsibility for what we have done will do us well.

We begin to see the error in our ways.  We then understand that our actions have repercussions. And, we can do something to rectify so that we can move on.


3. ASK FORGIVENESS.

Please forgive your servant’s offense, for the LORD will certainly make a lasting dynasty for my master, because he fights the LORD’s battles. Let no wrongdoing be found in you as long as you live. (1 Samuel 25:28)

I’ve always thought it’s useless to be defensive.

If you’re wrong, no need to be defensive.  Why? Because you are wrong!

If you’re right, no need to be defensive. Why? Because ultimately, the truth will come out.  The truth will set you free.

Remember, it is the Lord who will vindicate.

 

 

 

 

David was one stressed out dude.

Coming from Aphek/Jezreel, he was sent back to Ziklag by King Achish.

To his horror, he found his city destroyed and house burned down after the raid by the Amalekites.  To top that, his family was taken together with all that they owned.

If that wasn’t enough, his mighty men and closest friends thought about stoning him because they were all distressed because they too lost their homes, families and possessions.

Not sure if you can relate with him.  But let me take it closer to home.

You just found out that your dad has cancer.
You won’t have a job at the end of the month because your contract is ending.
All your investments were lost because of the economic crisis.
Your professor just told you that you flunked your chemistry class and you have to take summer classes.
Your husband is having an affair.

What do you do?

The Bible said when David cried and had no more strength left weep, he found strength somewhere else.

“David was greatly distressed … But David found strength in the LORD his God.” (1 Samuel 30:6)

Finding yourself in an impossible situation will cause you to try to look for diversions – movie, friends, massage, TV series, Cheetos, hazelnut latte, etc.

All that’s not bad and it will probably work … temporarily.

You see,“There is no genuine strength until it is found in God alone.”

Find rest in Him.