I just witnessed a miracle last week!
In the middle of our prayer and fasting in Victory, I had the chance to sit down with a couple of people who has suffered a rift for more than 3 years. Both had a concern on how each other was treated and for years, they both harbored offense.
The Greek word for offense is the word “skandalon” where we get the word scandal. The thesaurus gives us synonyms which include impropriety, outrageous wrongdoing, misconduct, transgression, injustice.
But coupled with the definition is a strong metaphor. It gives us a picture of a trap that has a trigger as that of a bear trap. There’s a bait and once you are lured to take the bait, it gets you and you are trapped until you get rescued out of it.
That’s what an offense is. There’s a bait – a word, an act, or a misdeed that lures you to harbor pain. You take the bait and it gets you. And for this particular conversation I had with the two, it had them for 3 years.
But here’s the thing, when we sorted things out, much of the offense were based on miscommunication and misinterpretations. All that was needed was to clarify the intention and not merely judge by the action or worse what other people said.
It was a difficult conversation but in the end, God healed the friendship. Both apologized for taking offense and both released forgiveness.
Forgiveness is the reset button for any relationship.
God is good. And He is indeed the God of restoration.
“Look after each other so that none of you fails to receive the grace of God. Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many.” (Hebrews 12:15, NLT)